“The quality of a person’s life is in direct proportion to their commitment” ~ Vince Lombardi
Often times when you hear the word “commitment”, you think of commitment to other people. By being “committed”, you are making a promise to someone or something outside yourself. Committing to a relationship for example, or possibly a project or a scheduled event.
In keeping that commitment, you show others they can rely on you – that you “walk your talk” and can be trusted. In breaking the commitment, your actions raise doubt and disappointment, and people start to question whether they can truly count on you. You know the difference. You know how it feels when you stay committed and see things through to completion. You also know how it feels when you break a commitment. It may feel different for everyone, but deep down, you know it doesn’t feel good.
You know why? Because in breaking a commitment to others, you break a personal agreement with yourself. You sever the internal thread that binds you to personal integrity. Ouch. Just the thought of that hurts. To break with your own integrity means breaking with the essential part of you that knows abundance, prosperity, connection, love, joy, and accomplishment. Without that connection, you move through life in self-doubt, blame and possibly anger. These are all feelings that come up when you feel you are not getting what you want out of life.
When you stay committed, and keep agreements with yourself and others, you will be amazed at what you can accomplish. Even by committing to a simple phone call, you will tap into the flow of personal integrity that leads you to greater actions. You will also start to attract commitment-oriented people….so, be in the world who you want to bring into your life.
Here’s another lesson. It’s okay not to commit to everything. You have the absolute right to decide which things are worthy of your commitment. If you decide not to commit, then you can say with integrity, “no thank you”. But the moment you say “yes”, you are committed and the flow of personal integrity is in place. This can be useful once you start to feel the need to break the commitment. Just refer back to how good if felt to be in the flow of personal integrity. Once you sever it, you will see that it creates a split in your very Being.
Pay attention to this if it happens. It’s okay if it does…you are human. But ask yourself why, and commit to not doing it again. In doing so, you will start to opt for staying committed, and that’s where your quality of life will be defined.
Have a wonderful day!