The same goes with life.
When we fail to get personal tune-ups, and our daily actions aren’t aligned with what we value, we naturally get pulled in directions that lead us off our desired path.
Which leads us to Question #2 in our Calling In Series:
“What do I stand for?”
So what does this question mean, and how does it relate to alignment?
We all have traits, qualities, and principles that we not only find worthwhile, but that dictate the way we view the world. These are called “core values”- central guiding principles that serve as the compass for our lives. These core values conjure up emotion, and we feel the need to protect them. If you were to make a puzzle of your life, your core values would be the four corners and edges that hold the puzzle together.
Simply stated, your core values are what you stand for.
A few of my core values are God, Family, Health, Excellence and Self-Love. These core values shape my world – they dictate how I spend my time, who I choose as friends and partners, where I put my emotional energy, and how I design my dreams and aspirations – the how, when, who, where and what I Call In to my life.
But you know what? I’m not perfect. I get out of alignment with my core values like we all do. How do I know when this is happening? When I experience suffering and discontent. You see, when our actions aren’t aligned with our core values, we feel the pain deep inside. It may feel like stress or confusion, or maybe you feel victimized. But really, it’s just that we’re making decisions that don’t protect what we stand for.
For example, if one of your core values is Family, and you continue to take jobs that keep you traveling away from your family, then you will feel that personal insult every time you board the plane. Or possibly your core value is Peace, but you keep over-committing yourself, and then feel angry when you get called to yet another PTA meeting. Maybe you stand for Health, yet make choices to overeat and feel the shame of that action. We try to talk ourselves out of these behaviors, but that’s usually ineffective. It only works when we vigilantly remind ourselves what we stand for, and use that as the starting point.
On the paths we’ve chosen, we’re going to get out of alignment. Just like the car wheel that pulls to the left or right, we’ll get red flags reminding us that it’s time for a service. Know that realignment is available to you. You can always check in and take a new stand. Notice the signals. And when you feel pulled in the wrong direction, just stop, pull over, and realign.
You’ll increase your miles, you’ll appreciate the journey and you’ll have a safer, happier drive.
I always welcome your comments below.